MINDSET #1: “I’M TOO BUSY, THEREFORE I CAN’T.”
This idea of I’m too busy, therefore I can’t workout out is the following:
If I think I don’t have the time to workout, it’s a very comforting statement I’m making for my inner, therefore it’s ok. It becomes a very legitimate excuse for our thinking process.
I had a friend who once told me that he really wanted to get fit and that he really needed to because he was seriously overweight.
Every time we would talk about trying to figure this out (where to put it in his schedule, how he could get himself to do that with everything else going on in his life, etc.), he would always say he didn’t have time.
Over a couple of weeks, I decided one day to actually see what he was doing after work. What I found out was a combination of 5 hours spent daily from seven o’clock until almost midnight every evening after work watching TV or/and playing video games) I don’t have time was, obviously, code for something else and a subconscious legitimate reason not to work out.
This isn’t to criticize him or anybody else…change is hard, but I often find that “I don’t have time” is one of the least legitimate excuses.
Is the mom with a full-time job and three kids busy? You better believe it. But if she had an event come up for one of her kids, could she find the time? Definitely.
Is the person doing graduate school while working himself through school busy? 100%. But if he meets a woman he thinks he might marry, do you think he’d just say, “I’m too busy” ? I doubt it.
More often than not, it’s a key indicator that the “switch” to procrastination still off.
Feeling like your mind is going crazy but don’t have time to meditate? Huge indicator you need to find the time.
Feeling like you’re working a ton but don’t have time for a relationship (or improving your current one?). Big red flag.
The paradox is that if you think you cannot do something because you don’t have time, then it’s really important that you prove to yourself you can make the time and if you CAN’T then do the same thing as robbers do, they steal money from a bank because STEALING the time, make it happen and you can start by stealing an hour a day and two and three until it becomes a habit.
MINDSET #2: THANKFUL TO JUST 1% BETTER
If you don’t set your own goals and dreams, no one else will.
The second inner mindset of fit people is “Thankful to just 1% more.”
Anytime you’re going after something, try thinking “just one more and be appreciative.” It was one of the big things I did when I first got back into working out. I keep myself happy with the results I was getting, so I told myself just one more rep in the weight room or one more lap for my run.
If you do 10 bicep curls, try doing 11. If you do 20 leg presses, try doing 21, or 22, or 23. If you’re plateauing and you’re not getting the results you want, the first thing would be; just try a little bit more and APPRECIATED.
Push it just a little bit further and appreciated. What’s amazing is that you can apply these to anything in life. (Can’t write your book? Just write one more page, paragraph, sentence or word.)
You know what’s strange about that extra 1%?
That’s where all of the growth is. One Step at a time. You can do all of this, but this is where the growth happens whether it’s lifting weights, writing a book, running a marathon, or improving your relationship.
MINDSET #3: WHO I THINK I AM, DICTATES HOW I ACT
The third mindset shift in fit people is the idea of I am.
Dr. Maxwell Maltz, a surgeon who realized that no matter how much he altered certain men and women’s physical looks, some of them never became more confident.
He couldn’t figure out why these people never felt better about themselves when he fixed the ugly nose that the woman thought she had or removed the disfigured scar on the guy’s face from his car accident.
Why were they not getting better?
It was because of their self-identity, the inner belief about how they saw themselves, was stronger than the physical proof of how they looked.
With fit people and successful people, you often see a very strong change in identity.
For example, I made a shift about ten years ago with my daughter: We are not persons that drink soda anymore. And that has become our identity since. We can go to a full party with hundreds of people, with everyone offering soda to each other and we will never have it – not even once.
There’s a strong identity change in smokers, or women who don’t date a certain kind of man anymore, or people who have given up on being self-critical.
The third habit shift is seeing yourself as you want to be.
What does the fit version of myself think? How do they act? What habits do they have?
What I found works best is to reverse engineer (breakdown) the habits of my better version, and then begin doing those on a daily basis.